Back in December I stumbled upon a blog called
“Love & Lust The Adventures of a Hypersexual Woman” The blog is authored by a woman in her 20’s who is currently living in Australia but was born in and lived in the US until recently. I read her blog post titled
“Foot Fetish” and it discussed her relationship with an ex who had an insatiable foot fetish. He was so into his foot fetish that it eventually took over there love life and led to the demise of their relationship. I decided to reach out to the author Hypersexual Girl (HSG) and see if she would be kind enough to discuss this incident and her general thoughts on foot fetishes with us. By the way she is
super hot and was nice enough to share a pic of her feet with us.
Here is what she had to say.
Before you met Ed did you ever have a partner that had sucked your toes or asked for a footjob or anything foot fetish related?I'd been with a couple of guys who sucked my toes and kissed my feet during foreplay and sex but nothing more than that.
How did Ed tell you that he had a foot fetish? What did you think when he first told you?
Ed is a very funny guy and very open sexually. He frequently makes himself the butt of his own humor. I met Ed when I attended an actor friend's showcase night in this rundown performance space in Hollywood. The audience was seated in anything and everything. I sat in one of these sort of high director's chairs, and Ed sat down near me a few minutes later in a perpendicular row. The first thing out of his mouth was a compliment about my shoes and pretty soon he admitted he was a "foot freak." During intermission, Ed shamelessly hit on me and asked if I was dating anyone. I thought he was very cute so we exchanged numbers. On our first date he was pretty candid about having a foot fetish.
Did you enjoy it when he sucked your toes or was it just something you did for his pleasure? If you did enjoy it why? Did you get pleasure out of any of the other foot fetish acts you indulged in with him (foot jobs, stroking his balls with your feet, having him cum on them etc).
In all honesty, I did it for him. Having a man suck and kiss my toes really does nothing for me. I did like using my feet to play with his cock because I liked the feel of that, but that's not something I would deliberately seek out for myself. I like frottage but prefer when a man rubs his cock against my buttocks, midsection, thighs, and/or breasts. If I'm going to fondle a man's hard cock, I'd rather do it with my hand because it's more tactile. The cumming on my feet was actually ticklish. He would cum on my feet and then lick it off, which drove him wild.
You mentioned that Ed's foot fetish completely took over your sex life with him to the point of ruining it. Share with us how someone can balance a foot fetish with a regular sex life in order to achieve satisfaction for both partners? Ed freely admitted that he got so caught up in his own fetish that he overlooked the woman's needs. That, I think, is an inherent danger in any fetish. While I'm perfectly willing to indulge a man's fantasies and fetishes, I need satisfaction, too. I think a more dominant woman could have handled Ed better than I could. I tend to be submissive sexually to a man. A "take charge" sort of woman would have kept Ed more in line. Perhaps that's the answer to your question -- a man with a fetish needs a strong woman to keep his fetish under control. Ed is big and physically very strong, the sort of man I'm attracted to, but then I let him run with the ball. So it was an inherent mismatch.
Any advice for my readers on the do's and don'ts of toe sucking?
Do something else while you're sucking her feet. If she's just laying there passively while you go to town, she's probably not going to be pleasured. I'm flexible enough from dancing that a man can do me missionary with my leg bent back so he can suck my toes. If he does that, we can both be aroused and pleasured.
Any advice for my readers on how to tell their partners that they have a foot fetish?
I think honesty at the get-go is the best policy when it comes to most sexual activity. If the woman is going to be turned off by a guy's foot fetish, I think it's better to find that out sooner rather than later. I think that's the case for anything sexual. I have a high sex drive, so I know a guy with a low sex drive will pretty quickly frustrate me and vice versa. So why even go down that road? Avoid the heartache and headache if you can. The problem with Ed was I genuinely liked him outside the bedroom. He's a really sweet, funny guy and tons of fun to be with. In the bedroom, however, I think he saw me as a means to an end, as a way to indulge his fetish, and he forgot about me. So we were just not sexually compatible, thus it hurt somewhat when we stopped dating. But I'm glad we're still friends. We were meant to be friends, not lovers, but for a while after things broke off it was painful for both of us.
Any advice for my female readers on what to expect if they ever end upwith a partner who has a foot fetish?
Don't let him get carried away. I think that's true of any fetish. Indulge him some but don't let it overwhelm you unless you like that. If you're both into latex or S&M, for example, then run with it. But if one partner is, while the other isn't, then there needs to be a happy medium. I think sexual compatibility is essential in any relationship. While both partners need not be 100 percent compatible, there needs to be some mutually inclusive areas.
